Your Guest List Problems Solved… in 60 Seconds
28 Apr 2015
The possibility of offence is high, the potential cost is higher… and tension is testing relationships. Fear not! Your guest list problems are solved
It's one of the most stressful processes of the wedding planning process, but Bride has formulated a 60 second solution to your wedding guest list problems.
1. Choose your figure, and stick to it...
When a budget is decided, it’s time to assess the number of guests you can afford, which will also influence the venue you book. When a figure is decided for guest numbers, assign 50 per cent to the bride and groom and 25 percent to each set of parents. It goes without saying, of course, that these figures are flexible; if a parent is paying for the wedding, it may warrant them having a higher percentage. Bear in mind that a percentage of invitations will be turned down, allowing for redistribution on an as-need basis.
2. Pre-prepare your parents
To save embarrassment or frustration, act early and give parents guidelines. With the excitement, it won’t take long for invitations to be rolling out… verbally, most likely, to their friends and acquaintances. By giving specific guidelines as early as possible, you may prevent the embarrassment that comes with expected invitation never hitting the doormat…
3. Categorise your guest
When you have a ‘hit list’, start to break your guests down into categories: Close family, extended family, friends and colleagues. Work up from the bottom when cutting numbers.
4. The two-year rule
There is the one-year rule, but excluding those who you’ve not spoken to for two years holds strong sway – those you’ve not spoken to for one year should be considered carefully, too.
5. The quandary of plus-ones
It is a sure-fire way to double your numbers, and with plux-ones taking up the space of somebody nearer or dearer, it isn’t a straight-forward decision. One approach is to only invite those when you have socialised with them. When questioned, or asked whether a plus-one can be brought along, explain that due to budget, you’ve had to exclude a number of friends and family – it should politely make it clear that a plus-one is low on the priority list.
6. Keep it small
If numbers are small, with close friends and family only, people will be less likely to take offence when they’re not invited. The option is always available to have a larger celebration post-honeymoon, with a higher headcount but smaller budget.
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