What to write in a wedding card

Finding the right words for the happy couple might be trickier than you expect

Putting your feelings into writing can be challenging and writing a wedding card is no exception. After months of excitement and anticipation, when the big day finally arrives sometimes it can be hard to find the right words to express your happiness for the newlyweds. 

Knowing what to write very much depends on your relationship with the happy couple. If they are a close relative or friend, your message will be much more personal than for a colleague, for instance. Here are a few key tips to help you find the right words.

Choosing a card

If you are not sure what to say, find a card that says it all for you. Don’t worry about opting for a pre-printed message – if it’s humorous, the couple will want to pin it up somewhere and if it’s personal, they will appreciate the time spent choosing it. Otherwise a pretty card is a safe choice – you could always make your own with pressed flowers or photographs, if you want to get your creative juices flowing…

The main focus

Make your message personal by focusing on the couple. Writing a wedding card is a great opportunity to reflect on memories shared and adventures ahead – so take time to make your message personal, in however much detail feels appropriate.

Short and sweet

If you don’t know what to write, don’t feel as if you need to come up with a lengthy message. Keep it short and sweet with best wishes for the bride and groom’s next adventure together – be that a honeymoon or married life. 

Avoid clichés 

If in doubt, do not revert to clichés. You could include a memory that you have shared with the bride and groom, or a private joke that only they will understand instead. If you are really struggling, you could include a quote from a romantic movie or love poem.

Words of wisdom

If you are married, why not include some words of wisdom? If you are relatively newlywed, opt for a jokey piece of advice – but if you have been married for a long period of time, add a few tips as to what makes for a long and happy marriage. 

A word of thanks

Thank the couple for inviting you to be a part of their special day – particularly if you are a member of the bridal party. 

Signing off

Sign off with love if you know the couple well or best wishes if that seems more appropriate.