Your wedding questions answered
27 Jul 2021
Experts answer your most asked questions regarding weddings in 2021
As COVID-19 continues to affect our everyday lives, brides and grooms across the country are faced with uncertainty as to whether their wedding day will be able to go ahead as planned. Despite the recent lift on restictions, it’s important to remain open-minded that this could change depending on how the pandemic plays out in the upcoming months.
As wedding dates are added to our calendar of celebrations again, there are still many questions and concerns from couples which have been left unanswered.
However, never fear - we have wedding professionals and industry experts on hand to answer your questions:
Should I worry about my wedding date?
Due to it remaining an unprecedented time, many wedding venues and suppliers are being flexible in terms of rearranging dates at no extra cost. If this isn’t the case, however, and your venue considers a postponement or a cancellation, then consider having your wedding somewhere special to make up for it.
It’s advised you take out insurance if you haven’t done so already. That way, in the event that your wedding venue has to close due to the tightening of restrictions, you’ll be covered. Furthermore, check with your venue if you can reschedule for a different date, discussing options later in the year or next year, then check with vendors to see if this will be possible. Check your new provisional date with your most important guests – after all, you don’t want your best friend or a close family member unable to make it and have to change the date again or sacrifice them not being there! Plan for additional costs in the event that fees change based on the season.
Once you have another date in mind for when you might need to change the ceremony to, let your guests know well in advance.
How do I cure my anxiety for walking down the aisle?
Although walking down the aisle is a dream that many people have had since they were a child, for some this can trigger feelings of anxiety. Being centre of attention and having all eyes on you isn’t for everyone, and for some this mental block can cause a lot of stress. For those who suffer social anxiety disorder and feel this is likely to be triggered whilst walking down the aisle, there are techniques you can practise to help you cope with this before the big day.
Take a break from organising the wedding to make time for the usual routines and practises you do to help deal with your everyday anxieties.
Other than this, rehearsing the big day beforehand will give you a taste of what the real event will be like. This will help you feel more comfortable with the venue and not be as overwhelmed. As for techniques to try whilst practising your big day, focus on making eye contact with your partner, not the guests around you. That way, you can ease some of the anxiety around having all eyes on you.
How do I remain calm and stress free during wedding planning?
Prioritise your mental health. Feeling stressed and sad over one of the most important days of your life being cancelled or delayed is completely understandable. If it is affecting your daily life and routine, it is nothing to be embarrassed about. Mental health is important, and just as important as your physical health – just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t matter. With the pressure and worry of the wedding, as well as COVID-19 continuing to have everything up in the air, it’s likely you’ll feel down – according to Mind, the mental health charity, one in four people in the UK experience a mental health problem each year.
Remember to set yourself as a priority. In moments of crisis, it’s important to take a step back and remove yourself from stressors. Take time out of your day to do things that make you happy. Now that social restrictions are beginning to ease, it is the perfect time to go back to doing something you have missed. When you’re down, it’s too easy to slip into a lethargic routine that is a breeding ground for negativity and sadness. Maintain your appearance as you normally would, like applying fake tan if you usually wear it, putting some make-up on, painting your nails, and doing your hair.
Make use of sport and leisure facilities now that they have reopened and book a slot at the gym or at a fitness class. With this said, it’s also important to remember not to make yourself feel bad if you don’t always feel up for exercise every now and then. Don’t pressure yourself to be productive this whole time. If you don’t feel up to it, practising meditation and mindfulness with the guidance of apps on your smartphone can help, such as Headspace and Calm.
Other than keeping a regular sleeping pattern, take time to try out some new healthy meals and cooking recipes. A healthy gut is a healthy body, which can help contribute to a healthy mind. Don’t hide away – video call people to open up and speak to those closest to you about how you’re feeling, including your partner. Be there for each other during this difficult time. If you feel like things are getting on top of you, seek professional help from your GP.
I'm worried about the financial burden of our big day...
Probably one of the biggest concerns for many people is the financial aspect of a wedding. It’s no secret that weddings are expensive, especially if you’ve had to rearrange due to previous COVID restrictions. Setting a budget is key for ensuring an unnecessary amount of money isn’t spent on the ceremony.
If the price tag of your wedding is causing you to lose sleep at night, it’s important to remember that your wedding is for you and your partner—not a fancy display for the guests. So, if you don’t want something, then don’t buy it.
Dividing your budget into the different attributes of your wedding will help organise your finances. That way, you have greater control over where your budget is going and how much you plan to spend on each part—leaving no nasty surprises when it comes to calculating the final cost.
I'm worried about the schedule, how do I organise the day?
Weddings take a lot of time, effort, and patience. Finding the time to organise everything can trigger a lot of anxiety.
To help cope with this, create a timetable and a checklist of things to do on each day. This will ensure that everything gets done and on the days you need them to be. It will also mean you can work your wedding planning around your everyday life too. Your hobbies and routine shouldn’t stop just because you’re planning a wedding. Find time for some you time.