A two-day wedding, post lockdown in the Yorkshire Wolds
24 Sep 2020
Ruth Patterson and Ezequiel Gomez Balaguer had a family orientated wedding with a simple elegant theme, bringing a lot of joy after lockdown
Photography: Steven McDonald Photography and Graham Staples
What was the theme for the day, and did you have a colour scheme?
Our theme was ‘sophisticated glamour’, and this meant a complete ivory theme – flowers in both the church and marquee were all ivory and greenery. My dress was ivory and the bridesmaid and flower girl dresses were all ivory.
What venue did you choose and why?
We chose to marry in the local church and hold the reception in a marquee at my parents’ house because we spend a lot of time here and it’s a fantastic private venue that allowed us a lot of flexibility – this turned out to be the key element when Covid-19 hit and we had to switch the wedding to two days rather than one. We had 30 people on the first day which included the vicar, photographer and videographer and around 26 on the second day due to four people being trapped in Manchester local lockdown and being unable to join us. The marquee allowed us the flexibility to have two days and to have all the elements we wanted without being confined to the restrictions of a regular venue.
Tell us about the dress
I tried two dress shops in Harrogate which had some stunning dresses but nothing felt right and the prices were pretty high. The third shop I visited was Deborah Moore Bridal in Hessle and I picked a Sottero & Midgley dress which I fell in love with as soon as I tried it on. I did my dress shopping with my mum and it was a wonderful experience for us to share together – there is nobody’s judgment I trust more.
Who were the bridesmaids and what did they wear?
My two bridesmaids were my cousins Sarah Hill and Grace Watson who I’ve always been very close to. I was bridesmaid for both of them so we finally came full circle. They wore ivory one shoulder dresses from Ted Baker. My flower girls were Sarah’s daughter and my two nieces, and my page boy was Grace’s son. It was a very prominent family affair.
Tell us about the floral arrangements
After finding a couple of local florists quite snooty when we enquired about our wedding, we decided to do our own flowers which ultimately became a great cost saving. My mum and godmother produced the floral arrangements for the church and a friend of my mum made the bouquets which were stunning. I was blown away by how beautiful the arrangements all looked.
Tell us about the details of the day
We wanted to keep the theme very classy and elegant so we didn’t want anything gimmicky like photo booths. We decorated the marquee ourselves with finishing touches like printed menus on the tables and at the bar, a signing board with a photo of ourselves in the middle so we can frame it rather than a guestbook which would sit in a cupboard forever. We focused on the food and drink, making dessert platters and cheeseboards ourselves and then getting a local caterer to produce the sit-down meal and the canapés which were a mix of English and Argentinian delicacies (and a vintage pizza van on the second day). Instead of favours we decided to make a donation to a local hospice – Dove House Hospice – who so kindly cared for my Great aunt in her last days. It was important to me that she was somehow a part of the wedding.
How did you feel as you walked down the aisle?
I felt amazing and excited that we had finally made it to our wedding after months of struggles. Because we’d had a difficult journey it made the moment all the sweeter.
How did you make the ceremony personal to you?
The ceremony was very personal because the reverend knew the struggles we had been through with planning the wedding and the various hurdles we’d overcome so he focused on this in his address. We listened to my favourite hymn from school (One More Step Along The World I Go) and had readings from two family members which focused on love and marriage. The music was very classical and beautiful but the service was full of laughter and humour.
What was your most memorable moment?
When our vicar was using a metaphor of arguing over Indian takeaway versus pizza as a way to describe how we should compromise in our marriage.
What was the most challenging aspect of planning this wedding?
Covid-19 made things difficult, we practically re-arranged everything about four times when weddings were on, and then off and then on again! Some guests were flaky in committing to attending which made planning strict numbers quite a challenge. My new brother-in-law had a terrible road accident a month before the wedding which meant him and my new sister-in-law couldn’t travel. The marquee was slightly broken and we ran out of time to fix it before the day. We had to get my husband’s parents over from Argentina in time to quarantine when there were limited flights from South America so that was a big hurdle but we got there and they made it to the wedding.
What was the most important investment for you?
The food and drink was important. Well fed guests are happy guests. And it was great for us to use as many local suppliers and friends as we knew. Our day one caterer taught me food technology at secondary school and our day two caterer was a classmate at school. Our bar was borrowed from a friend and we supplied our own drinks.
What song did you choose for your first dance, and why?
We didn’t have a first dance as due to Covid-19 regulations we had to cancel our band so the evening finished around 9pm on both days.
Do you have any advice for other couples?
Go ahead and don’t let anything, not even a global pandemic, stop you if you want to say your vows. You’ll find a way! We had lots of people telling us to cancel and delay to 2021 and I’m so glad we stuck to our guns and did what was right for us.
Steal Their Style
Day One Photography: Steven McDonald Photography
Day Two Photography: Graham Staples
Dress: Deborah Moore Bridal
Hair: Hair by Ellen
Make-up: The bride
Day One Catering: The Molehills Kitchen
Day Two Catering: The Tiki Tiki Flamegrill Barbeque Hut
Cake: Susan Patterson (mother of the bride)
Videography: Dan Williams Visual
Mini-moon: Matfen Hall