A silver, black and white wedding in Essex

24 Sep 2019

Bobbie Rogers married Dean Oldfield at Braxted Park Estate on June 25, exactly four years to the day of their engagement

How did you meet? 

We met at a photoshoot in May 2009. Dean was in a band and I worked with a local photographer who invited me to attend and take some photos for my portfolio. It was love at first sight. Thanks to social media we were able to connect after the photoshoot and we have been together since.  


Tell us about the proposal.

It was our six-year anniversary, Dean had arranged for us to see ‘Thriller Live’ at the Lyric Theatre and for us to stay overnight in Soho. We made the train journey up to London and after arriving and checking into our room at the hotel, Dean wasted no time... he got down on one knee and asked if I would stay by his side for the rest of our lives, of course I said yes. I later found out that in order to hide the ring from me, Dean travelled all the way up to London with the ring in his shirt pocket – that explained why he was so on edge and constantly patting his chest.  


What was the theme for the day, and did you have a colour scheme? 

Our theme was simply just 'love', showing a decade of love to celebrate our 10-year anniversary. Our colour scheme was white and silver with black accents for elegance.  

What venue did you choose?

We chose Braxted Park; it is set in beautiful grounds with acres of unspoiled grassland and wildlife. The staff made us feel welcome there and this really helped us make the decision.  



When did you know when you’d found ‘the’ dress? 

I was looking for something timeless and simple. I tried on five dresses and it was the fourth dress that I tried that really made me feel like a bride. The dress was from WED2B and it was a VIVA Bride dress called 'Jamie' in Ivory.  

Does the dress match the one you originally thought you would choose? 

Not at all, the dress I chose was a gorgeous fit and flare style dress with a fairly large tulle train. I initially imagined that I would wear a slightly more minimalistic dress without a train. 



What did the bridesmaids wear? 

The bridesmaids wore ‘La Closet De Chanel’, a classic floor-length multiway dress in black in alternating styles. I had three bridesmaids; Chloe, Dean’s sister who was maid of honour; Patrizia, my friend from Switzerland was matron of honour; and my sister, Kayleigh, as bridesmaid.  

What did the mother of the bride wear? 

A black dress embellished with red roses by Caution to the Wind.  



Where did you find your suits? 

We hired the suits from Moss Bros, Lakeside. Dean was looking for sleek Italian fitted style black suits and found these easily from Moss Bros.  

Did you hire a wedding planner?

We didn’t hire a wedding planner, however Braxted helped us organise the day and we were lucky enough to work with their events co-ordinators the week up to the wedding and on the day too. 



Tell us about your floral arrangements…

Our flowers were supplied by Stock Florist. We wanted to continue the theme of simple charm and the flowers were white hydrangea, gypsophila and eucalyptus. We had a beautiful long and low arrangement and decorative pew ends for the ceremony which were later moved to the reception tables. The bridal party bouquets, corsages and buttonholes had gypsophila and eucalyptus. 

Tell us about the details of the day… 

Our wedding rings are black carbon fiber bands from Lance James Jewelers, Chelmsford. They might not be ‘traditional’ as such but these bands represent strength to us and really complement our style. 

We wanted to try and ensure the day was a testament to us and our relationship. We bought locally and from small businesses. For example, our lovely adult favours were a mixture of handmade and completely organic soaps, personalised and packaged in biodegradable material by the lovely ‘Bean and Boy’. 


We created a lot of the decorations ourselves, including the seating mirror, table centrepieces which were recycled whisky bottles and jam jars (painted and ribbon tied), the place names, and children’s activity boxes.

We also created a lovely display of family who unfortunately are no longer with us, but who have all been integral parts of our journey so far. 


We also loved incorporating small details to ensure that our family and friends were happy. We supplied paper heart fans for the outdoor ceremony (which definitely went down very well), ‘dancing shoes’ flip flops for the evening, and toiletry baskets for both restrooms. Our guests were all so appreciative for these little details. 

How did you feel as you walked down the aisle? 

Very nervous initially, but ready to go. As soon as I saw Dean I was so overwhelmed with happiness.  


How did you make the ceremony personal to you? 

The songs were really important to us. We chose Angels by The XX to start the ceremony. To sign the register we chose to have Reflecting Light by Sam Phillips and Your Song by Elton John. Then for the grand finale, our walk-out song was Never Tear Us Apart by INXS.  

What was your most memorable moment? 

Dean: It has to be the when I saw Bobbie walking down towards me in her wedding dress, an image I will never forget.

Bobbie: For me too, seeing Dean as I peered around the corner walking up to him, his smile filled me with so much warmth.

Another very memorable part of our day for us both was that Bobbie’s incredible grandad was able to make it to the ceremony. He suffers with Alzheimer's and resides in permanent care. We really wanted him to see us tie the knot and organised specialist transportation and his very good friend travelled with him to the venue. He was there and we couldn’t have asked for anymore, it really made our day very special. 



What was the most challenging aspect of planning this wedding? 

Honestly, we didn’t find anything too challenging, the whole experience was very relaxed. We knew what we wanted to achieve and thanks to the suppliers we chose, everything flowed nicely. 

What was the most important investment for you? 

It was the photographs for us. It was very important that we had beautiful photos to look back on in years to come which would truly capture the essence of our day. We found that with Bloomwood Photography, Emma fulfilled all our hopes by capturing some very beautiful pictures throughout the day.  


What song did you choose for your first dance, and why? 

We chose The One by Kodaline. We chose it because lyrically it suits us very well when referring to 'give and take' and 'being one' when together.  

Did you have any evening entertainment? 

Our DJ, DJ AJ Entertainment, was really great. Reflection Photobooths provided us with a selfie mirror and tonnes of props too which our guests loved and we have a lovely guest book from them which includes everyone’s silly selfies. Amazing Events provided large light up LOVE letters for the dancefloor area and a candy cart with all our favorites too.


Tell us about your wedding cake…

Julie from Simply Cakes For You, Barleylands, created such a beautiful three-tier cake incorporating the colour scheme of white, silver and black and our flowers of choice in three of our favourite flavours; carrot cake, chocolate orange and lemon.  

If you could go back and change anything, what would it be? 

It was the perfect day! If there was one thing, maybe to start the ceremony earlier to get a longer time celebrating with our loved ones. 


Did anything go wrong on the day? 

Bobbie nearly forgot to bring the rings to the ceremony but they made it there.  

Where did you go on honeymoon? 

We went to Paris. We travelled there three days after our wedding day which meant we had some time to organise ourselves before setting off. 


Do you have any advice for couples in the planning stages?  

Be true to yourselves, be considerate of your guests, but plan your day for you both and don’t compromise for anyone else. Don’t let anything stress you out or upset you in the lead up, help each other and remember it is all about you.   

Steal Their Style

Photography: Bloomwood Photography
Venue: Braxted Park
Catering: Acclaim Events
Floristry: Stock Florist
Cake: Simply Cakes For You 
Photobooth/Magic Mirror: Reflection Photobooths
DJ: DJ AJ Entertainment 
LOVE Letters and candy cart: Amazing Events
Make-up: Flawless Faces
Favours: Bean and Boy
Confetti: Adamapple Confetti
Dress: WED2B
Suits: Moss Bros

For more wedding inspiration from the Essex area, you can view our online edition of Essex Bride here

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