03 Aug 2011
‘Save the dates’ can be done electronically. But if you don’t want to distress your mother, mail proper invites
You know what’s not romantic? E-mailed missives saying you’re getting hitched. A hipper invitation involves handwritten cards, that are personally delivered to local guests when possible. Of course, there are endless rules when it comes to stationery etiquette, so let us guide you through some of the dos and don’ts.
• Use the third person in formal invitations - ‘Mr and Mrs Joe Bloggs requests the pleasure…’ There are plenty of other ways to make things more casual, but the right wording is considered sacrosanct among purists.
• Spell out numbers in the date and year.
• Use the correct titles. Doctors, for instance, are generally included but not PhDs.
• Refer to a gift list. If you really must do it, make sure it’s on a separate enclosure card.
• Add information about pre-wedding bashes.
• Ban children. If you want it to be a kid free reception, call your guests explaining why the venue isn’t suitable for young ones – or convey the message on an inner envelope.