A night-time wedding at the Roman Baths, Bath
07 Mar 2019
Kate Trythall and Sam Wightman’s night-time wedding was a glamorous, dusky pink celebration
How did you meet?
We were introduced by my best friend in Wiltshire, just after I had finished university.
Tell us about the proposal.
It was at just before midnight down at the South bank in London, looking out to the Thames. We had been to The Savoy for dinner and to see Romeo and Juliet the ballet. I turned around and Sam had a ring box open and asked me to marry him.
What was the theme for the day?
For the overall feel of the wedding I wanted ballerina pink and antique gold tones with a classic, vintage look. Dusky pink and antique gold were the colours we used throughout the wedding for the stationery, flowers etc. The tables had candelabras and cut-glass candle holders. In terms of other touches, we had an antique gold mirror table plan and velvet ring boxes in dusky pink and gold.
What venue did you choose?
We always dreamed of something a little different for our wedding and knew that we wanted to get married at night, with lots of candlelight. We wanted a romantic and vintage wedding at a historic settling. I noticed an article online with the most incredible wedding venues in the UK and it mentioned you could get married at the Historic Roman Baths in Bath at night. It ticked all the boxes for us and was perfect for an evening wedding. We both knew it was the venue for us as soon as we saw it.
We had a sunset ceremony at the Roman Baths and guests had canapés and champagne before moving upstairs for dinner, surrounded by candles and candelabras. We had peach roses on every place setting and place cards with calligraphy and wax seals. Dinner was served in the terrace room overlooking the baths followed then dancing and drinks in the reception hall.
When did you know when you’d found ‘the’ dress?
I chose my dress with my mother-in-law Kathryn and sister-in-law Marcie. I only tried on two dresses. We noticed a beautiful ball gown and they convinced me to try it on. I had never imagined a big dress but as soon as I tried on the tulle ball gown with pearl and sparkle encrusted top, it was the one. It was love at first sight; I felt like a ballerina princess and the dress was very Chanel in style. It was ‘Allen’ by Sottero and Midgley.
I had originally pictured a slim-fitting, beaded art deco style gown. This was the total opposite of what I initially expected to fall in love with. I also knew that Sam, my fiancé, would be expecting a slim-fitting dress and I wanted to surprise him.
What did the bridesmaids wear?
I had two bridesmaids: my two best friends and a flower girl, Sam’s niece India. I found the perfect dusky rose tulle skirts at Harrods by Needle and Thread. They worse rose gold silk tops made by Ted Baker. My flower girl looked like a mini-me in a sparkly ivory dress made by Nicki Macfarlane. She almost stole the show, she so looked amazing.
What did the mother of the bride wear?
A light pink dress with black polka dots and a black velvet tie. She wore it with a pearl necklace, a vintage Harrods black velvet evening bag and cream suede heels.
Where did you find the suits?
As it was an evening wedding we went for dinner suits. The groom and the best man wore Ted Baker Night Owl Diner Suits. Sam had a Christian Dior monogram tie to add a unique touch to his suit.
Tell us about your floral arrangements.
We had David Austin peach roses, grey-pink quicksand roses and amnesia roses with lots of greenery and berries scattered throughout. We had pink astilbe, eucalyptus and foxglove. The bouquets were hand tied with thick dusky pink velvet trailing ribbons. There was huge wreath of flowers on the top table and candelabras. We wanted it like a fabulous vintage dinner party. The flowers were created by the groom’s sister Carly Wilson, who is an amazing florist.
Tell us about the details of the day
- We had large peach rose heads on every place setting.
- I had the calligraphy place names made and added monogram wax seals and velvet ribbon.
- We used a gold vintage mirror and had a calligraphy transfer for the table plan.
- I used a V&A print and had calligraphy table numbers.
- The velvet monogram ring boxes were a unique touch.
- We also had mini French macarons and handmade chocolates.
How did you feel as you walked down the aisle?
It was the most incredible moment of the day. The ceremony was held down by the Roman Baths. It was a long dramatic walk around the Baths with my bridesmaids and, as cliché as its sounds, I did feel like a princess. Sam’s face when he saw me was the best moment and he was so surprised by my dress. I had six-inch Jimmy Choo wedding shoes on for the cobbled walk down the aisle, so I was also quite nervous.
How did you make the ceremony personal?
A harpist played ‘Kissing You’ by Des’ree from the Romeo and Juliet film as my walk-in song. My father read my favourite poem, ‘I Carry Your Heart’ by EE Cummings, a lovely moment. Our flower girl read ‘Love’s Philosophy’ by Percy Shelley. We also had monogram velvet ring boxes with our initials on in gold and dusky pink.
What was the most memorable moment?
The walk in to ‘Kissing You’ and seeing Sam’s face when he saw me. Another lovely moment was a surprise card and delivery from the groom. While getting ready with my bridesmaids, a present arrived from Sam. He gave me a Chanel Coco Noir perfume, perfect for a nighttime wedding, and had chosen some stunning vintage diamond earrings from Grays Antiques on Bond Street. They were stunning and completed my outfit perfectly – they were art deco diamond drop earrings with emeralds.
What was the most challenging aspect of planning this wedding?
Not blowing the budget – I have expensive taste…
What song did you choose for your first dance, and why?
Aretha Franklin, ‘Oh Me, Oh My (I am a Fool for you)’. We had a DJ for the evening.
Tell us about your wedding cake.
It was a two-tier semi naked cake with lots of gold leaf decoration. It was raspberry and rose flavour and decorated with blush pink edible roses. It was displayed on a vintage silver cake stand.
If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?
To not be nervous the day before and just enjoy it.
Did anything go wrong on the day?
It was raining all morning and afternoon before the wedding. Due to this, my hair and make-up artist, the wonderful Traci Pallari had to change my hairstyle from down to an up-do at the last second. The rain cleared up just in time for the walk over to the Roman Baths for the ceremony.
Where did you go on honeymoon?
We stayed in Bath at the Royal Crescent Hotel the night after the wedding and had a spa bath there, then had three days before heading off on honeymoon. We had an amazing two-week trip around Europe to visit lots of incredible places including Venice, Sicily, Dubrovnik and Hvar.
Do you have any advice for couples in the planning stages?
Getting the right venue is crucial as it sets the tone for the whole atmosphere and ambience of the wedding.
Steal their style:
Photography: Robin Bradshaw, Bullit Photography
Venue: The Roman Baths, Bath
Cake: RR Cakes
Hair and make-up: Tracy Pallari
Harpist: Ruth Kenyon
DJ: Tom Monteith, Platinum Music Events
Dress: Sottero & Midgley
Shoes: Jimmy Choo
Bridal headpiece: Gillian Million, pearl labyrinth headband
Flower girl dress: Nicki MacFarlane
Bridesmaids: Skirts - Needle and Thread at Harrods, Tops - Zaneti Cami at Ted Baker
Suits: Ted Baker Night Owl
Groom's shoes: Dexter by Jeffery West
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