Mother of the Bride Diary: Part one

25 Mar 2014

Mother of the Bride Diary: Part one

Introducing Elaine Cook, mother of bride-to-be Gemma, who is taking us through the wedding planning from a mum’s perspective and a few tips along the way

Hi everyone. I’m Elaine Cook and mother of the bride-to-be, Gemma Milly. I asked Gemma if I could write a blog about what it means to be a mother-of-a-bride and to share any useful hints and tips I come across along the way to Gemma and Tom’s big day. I also love a chat and would welcome your thoughts on the subject too. So, we have less than three months to the summer solstice and until everything has to be as perfect as it can be for my dearest daughter and her beau. Now that we have tipped over into 2014, I’m beginning to feel the panic rise. After all, it can’t be six months since they announced their engagement and we all thought, “Oh that’s plenty of time”. Can it? However, I have given myself a good talking to and I have decided it is not my role to panic. It is my role to keep her calm, a bit organised, realistic (tricky one, that) and remotely, approximately around the budget! For a bride who feels a wedding isn’t a wedding unless there is sparkle and glitter everywhere, I may have a job on my hands! Fortunately Tom seems able to reign her in just a tiny bit so he may be my greatest ally (and he would do well to keep on the best side of his future mother-in-law, n’est-ce-pas! )

So far we have the main things organised. The church and reception venue are booked and Gemma’s dress has arrived (oh did I do a little swoon there...). The wedding breakfast is in a barn and at first I thought, “how lovely, what a beautiful setting” and then I began to have thoughts along the lines of “chairs, fridges, tables, chairs (again) staff and catering facilities (there are none). I had to have a large gin and tonic and it was only 3pm! However I have a very organised daughter and have decided to leave a lot of this kind of worry to her and Tom and surprisingly, my husband, who sees all problems as “challenges”. I think sometimes we underestimate the ability of our men to prevent a drama becoming a crisis. Their apparent lack of involvement close up can be a very useful tool in your toolbox. As a result, we have booked a walk-in refrigerated trailer which will keep everything cool, including me probably when I overheat and need a “cooling place”. If I’ve momentarily disappeared on the wedding day, that’s where you’ll find me! I’m putting a couple of chairs in there at the back!

Check back for the next instalment - we’re talking ombréd napkins…


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