Lessons in Wedding Planning: what grooms really think of wedding planning
27 Mar 2017
Our bride-to-be blogger, Jessica Phillipson, gets married in a matter of weeks and here, her husband-to-be lifts the lid on the wedding planning process
Hi fellow brides-to-be,
As my wedding is now a little under a month away, this is my last wedding blog – I can’t believe it. A year in the life of this wedding planner has gone really quickly.
For my last blog, I wanted to bring it back to what it’s all about – marrying the person you love. So I grabbed the person I love for a quick ‘interview’ to get a groom’s-eye-view of wedding planning. I promise I haven’t edited any of his answers….
Do men really not care about wedding planning?
Not at all. I will admit that there have been a few instances within the planning process that have mattered less to me than others (no, I’m not saying which bits), but as long as we end up married on the day and our guests have a great time then I will be happy.
How much did you think about planning the wedding before you proposed?
Not a bit, to be honest. I figured that this would be something that we would be planning together, so it would be better to go into the process with an open mind and not be fixed on what I wanted out of the day. One step at a time.
What surprised you most about wedding planning (good or bad)?
A lack of upfront pricing on websites. When we were shopping around to see what fitted within our wedding budget, we ended up discounting quite a few providers on principle because we couldn’t get an idea of what they would cost. Picky I know, but our budget wasn’t limitless and we were trying to make much needed alterations/improvements to our newly-bought first home at the same time.
What was your favourite part of wedding planning?
For me, although it was early on, I think looking at and choosing a venue was my favourite part of the process. Some of the venues we looked at I couldn’t imagine myself getting married in, but when we saw our venue I had a good feeling about it. Going to have a look around then was great as you can visualise where the various bits were going to happen during the day and it made it that bit more real.
I will say that the other part I have enjoyed immensely has been planning the honeymoon.
What was your least favourite part?
Probably the guest list. In an ideal world you’d love to have all the people you care about at your wedding, but you have to be realistic in terms of what your day is going to involve and I may keep coming back to it, but a wedding with 150 guests was never going to be affordable.
What’s the worst thing I did?
What’s the best thing I did?
Organising. If it had been left to me a few of the details may have slipped and would have had to be sorted last minute. Thankfully, you didn’t pull out a ‘my dream wedding folder’ after I proposed and you have made sure we did at least one thing towards the wedding each month, which has meant less stress for both of us. It has also meant that we kept on top of it financially as well.
Do you wish we had done anything differently?
I have to say yes here. For our wedding, we have decided to have an adults-only day, but this has sadly meant that due to a lack of childminders/babysitters a few of our friends and family members won’t be able to make it. If I could go back knowing this, I may have looked into some sort of childcare arrangement, so more people could have attended.
What are you most looking forward to about our day?
Seeing you walk down the aisle. Seriously, I’ve not tried to find out anything about your dress and I can’t wait to see you in it. As long as you turn up on time and we end up married by 3pm-ish, I will be able to call the day a success.
Finally, if money and my opinion weren’t an object, what would you have on your wedding day?
Loaded question. If money weren’t an object, I’d pay for everyone to go out to the Bahamas and have a wedding à la (TV show) Scrubs, on the beach.