It’s a guy thing
14 Jul 2011
It’s a guy thing
Planning a wedding day takes time and preparation, but it shouldn’t all be left up to the bride. If TV shows such as Don’t Tell the Bride have proven anything, it’s that grooms CAN pull their weight when it comes to wedding tasks. DAWN MAIDSTONE suggests some roles for the men.
Do this together as a couple and come to an agreement about how much money will be spent on each area. Sticking to a budget should mean there are no unexpected bills at the end. You can extend this further by creating a log of spends, and don’t forget to include the stag and hen dos!
Attendants and attire
Choose your best man and ushers. Select what you will all wear for the day; this may be something your bride wants to be involved in too, so she can make sure everything matches.
Get all groomsmen measured early – don’t leave this until the last minute as fittings will also need to be arranged.
Once you and your bride have decided on your wedding transport for the day, you can handle the rest. You’ll need to organise the bride, father of the bride, the bridal party, as well as the best man and yourself. Remember you will be arriving separately, but leaving as a couple.
Purchase gifts for your bride-to-be and best man. Take time to think of something they’d really like, but remember you usually hand these out at the wedding, so nothing too big!
Write out your speech and ask a few people to read through it. Keep it short and tactful, thanking certain people, complimenting your new bride and a final toast.
GO THE EXTRA MILE
Guest list and seating
Make a full list of family and friends you would like to attend all day and those you would like at the reception. Together you can finalise numbers and then eventually arrange a seating plan. This will take time, but have patience with it and each other.
Invitations and favours
Offer to take responsibility for half of the invites – finding addresses and getting them posted/delivered. Some favours are made by hand and therefore take a lot of time. Offering to finish these will take away some pressure and allow the bride to focus on other plans.
Once you know the wedding colour scheme, select button holes for yourself and groomsmen, plus a corsage for your mother. Delivery arrangements will need to be organized, too.
Traditionally the honeymoon planning is left to the groom, however, now it is considered a joint effort. Why not be bold and take the responsibility back and arrange a surprise honeymoon for your bride?
After you’ve both chosen your wedding bands, let your bride get back to other plans while you buy and arrange collection and safe keeping.
If your bride hasn’t already chosen the music for the first dance, why not help with some suggestions. Also, if you really want to make a lasting impression you could take dance lessons to lead your bride around the dance floor or learn a choreographed routine together.
The wedding isn’t over once you’ve said “I do”. There will be lots of tasks that need to be done after the event, such as returning suits, sending thank-you cards, last-minute honeymoon jobs etc, so make sure you pull your weight here too.
As they say, marriage is a partnership, so start as you mean to go on.