How to write modern wedding vows for 2021

13 Jul 2021

Write the perfect vows for your 2021 wedding with the help from writing experts

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Wedding vows are promises you make to your partner, and they can be traditional or modern. Traditional vows are those we’ve all heard in a movie, and they go something like “I take you… in sickness and health… until death do us apart.” While they are classic, if you feel like they do not express your feelings, you should try writing your own modern wedding vows. Writing your own vows will make your ceremony personal and meaningful. 

Jon Woods, the founder of Poems and Occasions, shares his tips to succeed at writing your vows and making them truly unforgettable:

1. Start with a list: Write a list of moments you treasure with cute or funny anecdotes you want to share. This list can give you your opening paragraph, or express how and why you fell in love. 

2. Say I love you in your language: Perhaps you have a favorite song to say I love you, a love poem you wrote, or a favorite movie scene. Adding it to your wedding vows is a great way to honor a moment that’s played a special role in your love story.

3. Write how your partner makes you better: When you find your soulmate, you suddenly feel the need to get better at this game called life. What has changed or improved in your person, since your partner arrived in your life?

4. Time to make real promises: Wedding vows are all about making promises, not just romantic and ideal ones, but those that are important to the two of you; from the most basic promise of being there for each other through thick and thin, to taking out the trash, and never forgetting a kiss goodbye. 


5. Do not overthink: It’s fine to review and change some bits of your original draft, but keep it as close as possible to how you expressed it the first time.

6. Keep it short: Leave out unnecessary details. Your guests may not want to hear about what you wore to the first date and how you were late because you were stuck in traffic. 

7. Practice: Read your wedding vows, so you know where you need to pause to make them coherent and meaningful. Ask a friend for help, if needed.

8. Look at your partner: While reading, avoid looking at the officiant or guests. You are making those promises to the person you are marrying; look as often as possible into his or her eyes. 

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