How to handle a Bridesmaidzilla

05 Nov 2018

The rise of the Bridesmaidzilla: what to do when your friends have big plans for your big day

Words: Catherine Hiley

If you’re the easy-going one in your friendship group, it’s unlikely you’ll turn into a Bridezilla. But what do you do if one of your closest friends starts behaving like a diva in the run-up to your big day?

Luckily we’ve got you covered with a list of common bridesmaid problems and what you can do about them.

1. Your bridesmaid won’t wear the dress you’ve chosen

This is probably the most common disagreement brides-to-be have with their ’maids. If you’re not fussed about having everyone in identical outfits, it might be easier to let them wear what they want, provided they know you won’t be picking up the tab for it. It will work out a lot cheaper for you that way too.

But if you’ve got your heart set on having your entire bridal party in a particular colour or style, be sure to tell your disgruntled bridesmaid how lovely she looks in the dress you’ve chosen, dwelling on just how well the style/colour suits her. If she’s still sulking after that, gently remind her that it’s your day and you’ll happily wear whatever she chooses for you on her wedding day.

2. Your bridesmaids keep arguing

Again, this is a really common problem, particularly if your bridesmaids don’t know each other very well. Get them all together for a proper bonding session, whether it’s a girly night in or a day out somewhere fun.

If they still can’t stand the sight of each other after this, try to limit the amount of time they spend together and ask them nicely to at least tolerate each other until after the wedding.

3. Your bridesmaid has very strong opinions on your dress/venue/ceremony

Your friends should always have your best interests at heart. But if your bridesmaid insists you’d look much better in the hideous dress she’s picked out than in the gown of your dreams, or wants you to have your reception at a venue you don’t like or can’t afford, it might be time to say something. Of course, you don’t want to hurt her feelings but it’s your day. If she loves you, she’ll understand.

4. Your bridesmaid is organising the hen do from hell

We’d all like to think our best friend would know us well enough to organise the perfect party, but that’s not always the case. And if she’s booking a stripper when you specifically begged her not to, or planning an expensive weekend away that’s way out of everyone’s budget, you might need to step in and ask her to reign it in. Give her a brief for your perfect hen do so she knows what you want.

5. Your bridesmaid expects you to pay for EVERYTHING

You’re not made of money and weddings are expensive. Try to choose things that are affordable for everyone. If she still expects you to fork out for everything, remind her that weddings are expensive and tell her she has to pay for her own shoes/accommodation/make-up.

Got a Bridesmaidzilla on your hands? We want to hear from you on how you dealt with the situation. Emails

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