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How to avoid becoming a bridezilla

02 Aug 2017

Planning a wedding is stressful. Here are our top tips to avoid letting it get to you

Photo: Tom Pumford / Unsplash

We’ve all met one; a bride-to-be who’s taking herself too seriously, pushing people away, being rude, and getting stressed out. It’s only natural to worry that, while wedding planning, you will make the transformation into a bridezilla too. There are, however, ways to avoid it. Follow our top tips below to ensure that you’re the most chilled out, laid back bride-to-be you can be.


Listen to those who are close to you; it’s important to take on board other people’s opinions, whether you agree with them or not. Your bridesmaids, family, and maid of honour are there to be honest with you, not offend you. Explain your plans and ideas to them, and let them tell you what they think. If something is too over the top or extravagant, they will let you know. They will have different perspectives than you as they are viewing it through the eyes of a guest, not a bride.


Don’t let tasks get on top of you, otherwise you will end up stressed out and frazzled. Delegate jobs out to people you trust, such as your parents, maid of honour, or spouse-to-be. As long as you are clear with your intentions, it’s unlikely that they will mess it up. Loosen the reins a little bit on your to-do list, and let people help you out. You’ll be surprised at how much more relaxed you’ll feel when you don’t have the weight of the world on your shoulders.

Be realistic

It’s all very well and good to want an Instagram-worthy wedding, but how realistic is that ambition? A lot of the photos shown on Instagram and Pinterest are from weddings that cost thousands upon thousands of pounds, or from styled shoots in which the venue dresser spent hours meticulously designing every single detail. Take inspiration from these photographs, but don’t aim to mimic them perfectly otherwise you will drive yourself up the wall. Be realistic with your ambitions based on your budget and time frame.

Take time out

It is so important to take time away from wedding planning so you can look after yourself, your friends, and your relationship with your spouse-to-be. Practise self-care, such as indulging in a long bath or spending an evening curled up with your favourite food and a trashy film. Hang out with your bridesmaids but make sure you don’t spend the entire time talking about the wedding. Spend time with your betrothed and make sure not to neglect them. Organising a wedding takes a long time, but you don’t want to spend the entire year (or more) stressing, planning, and glued to your laptop.

Have fun

The whole point of a wedding is to show the world how much you love your other half. However, it’s also about throwing an amazing party that everyone will remember for the rest of their lives. There’s no point planning a wedding if you’re miserable the whole time. The wedding itself is going to be fun, so the planning should be too. Any time you see yourself getting too serious or frustrated, stop what you’re doing and relax for a little while. Make sure that you’re enjoying the wedding planning process. As soon as you stop having fun, you’re risking treading into bridezilla territory.  

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