Wedding advice from groom to groom
13 Jun 2019
From combating pre-wedding nerves to surviving the stag do, five grooms share their best wedding advice
Image: Gabriel Crismariu via Unsplash
With so much focus on the bride before the big day, it is easy for the groom's feelings to be overlooked - yet he will be experiencing much of the same emotions as his bride-to-be. Highs and lows are common, with feelings of joy and excitement counteracted by nerves, stress and exhaustion.
Sharing their best advice to get the groom through the planning stages and ensure he enjoys every minute of his wedding day, we speak to five men who have been there and done it...
Oliver Torrance: "Arrange the groomsmen’s suits early. There will always be one that needs the suit altered so it’s best to get this out the way so you don’t have to worry. I was lucky to have such an organised fiancé, but as great as she was at arranging everything I made sure I was always there to help out in any way possible. And finally the stag, whatever they dress you up in just go with it as you will not have much choice in the matter anyway. Most off all, just enjoy the lead up and the day as it’s over before you know it."
Oliver and his wife Danielle Galea on on their wedding day at Hutton Hall, Essex (Photography by Neil Bailey)
Darren Isaac: "My advice is to not quell wedding day nerves by drinking too much throughout the day. People will keep offering you drinks – keep yourself at a good level. The last thing you want is to ruin the wedding video by looking drunk at the altar, say your vows wrong or deliver a bad speech. Remember it’s your one big day to be at your absolute best."
Held in Ullswater, Lake District, Darren and his wife Claire Pugh had the perfect wedding day - see their full wedding in the 2019/20 edition of Lancashire & Lake District Bride magazine (Photography by Jason Chambers Photography)
Gary Ball: "For the stag do, just go with it – the more you resist the more you suffer. Be involved in the wedding plans and know what’s happening so you can make sure everything is right on the day in order to keep the bride calm. Don’t be the groom that doesn’t have a clue and leaves it to the other half. For your speech, keep it light-hearted and fun and don’t forget to talk about the bride...nothing else matters."
Gary married Naomi-Lena Watson at Thornton Manor in Cheshire (Photography by Stella Photos)
Matthew Streuli: "My top tip would be to plan time, maybe every Thursday, to discuss what needs to be done and what your diary looks like for the next few weeks. It's so easy to get carried away and not plan time for date nights or just lazy time in front of the TV. You suddenly realise you've been going at 100% with no chance of a break and no idea if you are missing things either for your big day or in daily life."
Matthew Streuli and Caroline Holmes wed at their local church in Iver Heath, Buckinghamshire (Photography by Megan Daisy Photography)
Benn James: "Don’t put pressure on our stag do. Social norms are tough to cope with so just because someone says that something is the typical thing to do, doesn’t mean that you have to conform. The guys and I had a rough plan of my stag but mostly went with the flow. We tried karting, ping pong, karaoke and ended up in the cheesiest club we could find. It turned out to be the best day for me (other than the wedding day, of course).
"On the day itself, take a moment to take it in. The pressure of prepping for the wedding day was intense and I was concerned that the whole day would pass too quickly. The best advice I received before the wedding was to just take a moment throughout the day to take it all in. Just stand still and take a mental picture of various moments throughout the day."
Benn and Ioana Bacociu tied the knot on Saturday 19th May 2018 (Photography by Swinky Photography)