Five meditative tips to try in the run up to your wedding
08 Mar 2016
Combat nerves in the run up to and on your wedding day by taking some much needed 'me-time'.
Stress is inevitable for couples planning a wedding and so much so, that it’s almost become a cliché. The image of a frazzle-haired bride-to-be (or worse, Bridezilla) desperately trying to keep on top of the tiny details has become so ubiquitous that it’s almost considered a key part of the wedding experience, as much a part of committing to the one you love as exchanging rings and cutting the wedding cake.
Despite the fact that these assumptions seem vaguely unfair, (where are the ‘groomzillas’ in this scenario?) it cannot be denied that organising a wedding may well be one of the more demanding things you will ever do. Suddenly, even if you have never arranged anything bigger than a trip to the pub before, you must become an event planner overnight, and the pressure can be intense.
If you are finding it difficult to deal with the stress of putting together the day of your dreams, then meditation could work for you. Meditation can help you calm down and find balance when you need it most, helping you stay happy even in the face of anxiety and strain.
Here, the team at Will Williams Meditation offer five meditation tips that will let you be at your happiest when planning your wedding, and calm any nerves that arrive on the big day.
1. Check out the benefits
When you have a to-do list a mile long and there’s hundreds of other things you could be doing in that spare half hour, you’ll need some compelling reasons to put meditation first. First off, there’s the aforementioned stress relief. Meditation is so powerfully relaxing that it reduces levels of stress hormones by a third, and after only eight weeks of practice the area of the brain responsible for the stress response is physically reduced.
This means you will experience stress much less often, and less intensely. Furthermore, this has knock-on effects in other areas of your life. You get better sleep, you find it easier to eat sensibly, you become more productive and even your skin improves. Taking a moment to look up the benefits will give you all the motivation you need to begin meditating.
2. Dedicate your time
One of the things that’s stressful about wedding planning is that there’s so much to do. Even the smallest and most relaxed of weddings involves a fair amount of effort, and with this all on top of your everyday life (which felt busy enough as it was) adding a new habit into the mix might be the last thing on your mind.
Luckily, you only need to meditate for 25 minutes a day to feel the effects, which isn’t too much time out of a day to ensure that you feel great. If it’s at all possible, you should try to dedicate one day in the week before your wedding that’s reserved entirely for relaxation. Then you can meditate, read, and generally not think at all about other people or the things left to sort out – concentrating instead on being kind to yourself.
With the culmination of months of organisation imminent, and the nerves mounting, this would be a good time to take a moment and let yourself savour the excitement of marrying the person you love, instead of pulling your hair out over RSVPs.
3. Start simply
Meditation as a concept is simple; you focus and empty your mind, it’s how this is interpreted that can be intimidating. With umpteen different meditation techniques to choose from, and lots of expectations on yourself as you try to achieve what you think meditation should be like, it’s easy to feel like you are doing it wrong.
In truth, there is no wrong way to meditate. Turning off the chatter in your brain isn’t something that’s going to happen entirely and immediately, and there’s no need to feel like you need to become a Zen master after trying a few times.
To begin with, simply set aside the time to focus on your breathing, feeling the way it fills your chest, and the release of tension as you exhale. Once you feel comfortable, you can start researching the different techniques, and perhaps even find a teacher who can give you guidance.
4. Involve your partner
The chances are, your partner is feeling pretty stressed out and anxious too. Declaring your love in front of the people that are most important to you, preparing for a day which will be one of the best of your lives, and the prospect of keeping dozens of people entertained for hours is enough to give anyone the jitters – something that will be affecting both of you.
Meditating with your partner will ensure that you both relax, and much like having a gym buddy, it will encourage both of you to stick with it. Also, meditation has been shown to increase empathy and kindness, two things that you will both appreciate in each other.
5. Use meditation on the big day
The day has arrived. With your family and friends to help you, everything in place, a beautiful dress to wear and a wonderful day stretched out in front of you, the chances are you’ll be elated. Unfortunately, it’s also quite likely that you’ll also be nervous to an extent that you didn’t even think was possible.
Getting a bit of meditation in before the whirlwind overtakes you will put you in the best frame of mind to enjoy yourself and relax. Meditation is a great way to tackle any panic, and put things in perspective. On your wedding day, a cake not arriving could send you spiralling into worry, but when you’re calm and clear headed you’ll be able to see this as a small hitch that’s easily remedied, rather than a huge disaster.
By helping you to face fears about being the centre of attention, and not sweat the small stuff, meditation could well become a great asset in your life before you swan serenely down the aisle.