Do Men Really Want their Partner to Propose to Them this Leap Year?
10 Feb 2016
A new survey reveals nearly a third would not like it…
- 31 per cent of men and 26 per cent of women dislike the idea of a woman proposing to a man
- 86 per cent of men would love to be asked out on a date, and 80 per cent of women would be happy to ask a man out
It’s 2016, which means that this year February has 29 days instead of 28 – and the 29th is the one date thattraditionally, women are able to propose to men.
This stems from a fifth century Irish legend which St Brigid of Kildare, a nun, making a plea to St Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland, to grant his permission for women to propose marriage to their menfolk who were too, ahem, shy, to do it themselves (of course this may have been because they just didn’t want to).
But thanks to good old Brigid, many women have embraced this tradition, including several celebrities. In fact, our very own Queen Victoria took charge of the situation with Prince Albert, and popped the question to him in 1839, while much-married actress Zsa Zsa Gabor apparently proposed to all nine of her husbands. Some of them may have felt rather railroaded into the state of matrimony… Even punk popstar Pink managed to pin down her man, motocross star Corey Hart, by holding up a sign saying ‘Will You Marry Me?’ as he was about to embark on a race.
Over the centuries, as men and women have become more enlightened, and more equal (with role ‘swaps’ such as working mums, and stay-at-home dads), the idea that women in a strong relationship can take charge of the proposal should be a positive one.
But is it actually the case? Social dating app TrueView wanted to find out whether men and women are still wedded to tradition, and how we actually see the approaches to dating, love and, ultimately, marriage.
A survey of 1,000 men and women showed more than 30 per cent of men actively dislike the idea of a woman proposing to them, because they do feel it’s not traditional. Whether that means that some men might feel emasculated, because they think they should be doing it, or simply that they might feel the control is then taken out of their hands, is not clear.
But a similar amount of women actually feel the same. While three-quarters of them would love to do so, the rest would not be comfortable getting down on one knee. However, when it comes to getting a relationship off the ground, men are happier to let women take control: a substantial 86 per cent of them would love it if a lady asked them out on a date. And 80 per cent of women would be just fine with that.
“It looks as if equality is definitely alive and well when it comes to the dating arena which is great,” says TrueView founder Matt Verity. “Men love to be asked out, and women clearly like doing it too. But maybe there’s still a little way to go before men – and women – are comfortable with the woman being the one proposing marriage. Perhaps by the next leap year after this, who knows, things might have moved forward a little…”