My Wedding Planning Journey: COVID and wedding planning not enough?
21 Oct 2020
Wedding planning can be overwhelming at the best of times, let alone with Covid-19 bringing significant challenges for couples. But bride-to-be Ashleigh Tuttle has decided that it’s also the right time to buy a house as well
We always had a bit of a two-year plan from 2019 (when we got engaged). We would move back to John’s parents’ house, save up for the wedding, and simultaneously save for a house. We have lived together for more than seven years, either renting or living with parents, but it costs a bomb to rent in London and I think John’s mum might have seen me in my PJs one too many times.
So, the plan was simple, we’d put about half our pay cheques away on saving for the wedding, with a quarter of them going on savings for the house (some people might find that weird, but the plan was to save longer for the house, plus I was more bothered about the wedding). I had been keen to move somewhere before we married though, as I didn’t like the idea of being carried over the threshold into either of our parents’ houses.
I picked up a second job at Global, reading the news for Capital FM, and we learnt to make some cutbacks. Everything seemed to be going well, then Covid-19 hit.
Suddenly living and working at our parents’ house didn’t sound so appealing. We had moved back to Norfolk for a while, and though I loved being back with my parents, any semblance of independence was lost. John worked in my brothers’ room, while I worked in my old bedroom, just to give us some feeling of normality. It became apparent to us quite quickly, the race to find our own home was on.
While living at home though, we have been able to save a lot of money, but sadly, some of the wedding excitement has been tainted because of Covid-19, so I perhaps haven’t been spending as much on wedding bits as I usually would.
After numerous viewings, we eventually found a two-bed house on the outskirts of London in May. It’s perfect for us, and with the plan to have children soon after the wedding a second bedroom was ideal.
It does make you realise how much of an effect Covid has had on every industry though. Something that should have been a relatively straight forward process which should have taken a couple of months (we were ready to exchange in July), took much longer (we finally exchanged in early October). The added pressure of being stuck in a house with relatively nothing to do also took its toll on our patience, and our poor estate agent got a text from me asking for updates almost every day.
I have already found ways to incorporate our wedding planning into the new house though, with the lady who is creating our table plan (where every guest is drawn as a Disney character) creating a portrait of John and I in The Little Mermaid scene (you can check out Aster & Ren designs on social media). One of our Save The Dates and an invite I had made by Tops Designs addressed to us will be placed on our fridge.
I think we are in such a world of turmoil at the moment, these little (or big) wins should be the things to keep us going. I am wholly positive that our wedding will go ahead as planned next July, but if you are in a place when you’re unsure whether you feel hopeful or not, try and find the little wins that you can focus on, the things in your control. No one knows where we will be in a month, six months, or even a year from now, and thinking of ‘what if’s’ will only make you ill in the long term. Take each day as it comes, have a contingency plan in place, and at the end of the day remember you will still get married, you will still get to be with the love of your life for the rest of your life, it just may take that little bit longer.