Being a bridesmaid... what does it mean?
06 Aug 2014
Our bride-to-be blogger Roxie decides she just wants her five girls to have fun… as well as being there when she needs them of course
Our bride-to-be blogger Roxie decides she just wants her five girls to have fun… as well as being there when she needs them of course.
photo credit to Perry Vaile Photography
I have never been a bridesmaid and I have never been married. I have chosen my five best friends to be a part of my big day. And after going away with my Team Bride for the weekend, I got to thinking – what do they actually do?
In the interests of gaining knowledge on this question, I did a little research and, among other things, these duties were listed:
· To be an advice giver
· To give emotional support
· Address envelopes (ZZZZzzzzzz)
· To not complain about her dress
· Generally be a bride’s personal assistant.
It all sounds a bit boring. I want my bridesmaids to have fun and more importantly, still be my friends after the wedding. Here is my take on some of the experiences I hope to have with my fabulous ladies.
Now I have been called a laid-back bride but I would imagine this is where it shows the most. I began by saying the girls can wear any dress they like as long as they are the same colour. I would still be happy if this is what they wanted to do but it seems they'd all like to wear the same. Now that I have seen them all together in the same style dress, (don't worry I didn’t miss that blog out, it was a five-minute experience) I think I would like them to all match.
Most importantly I want them to feel comfortable, and yes we have had the 'who's paying' conversation and decided on 50-50, which is fine by me.
Help with the 'fluffy' stuff (the collective name I've given to things like invitations, centre pieces and bouquets).
I am the kind of girl who just wants to get on with things. If I need help I will ask for it, and I have very good friends. Each one of them has come to me with ideas and suggestions for our big day (that’s mine and my fiancé’s, not mine and the girls, just to clear that up). I have asked them to help me with my invitations but I think with everything else I'll stick with my “I'll ask for help when I need it” stance as that’s just the way I am. I know they'll help me if I need it.
The hen do
This is probably where I am being a little bit Bridezilla. I think it's just because I know what I want and what I would get if it was up to some certain friends (you know who you are, and I love you!). I have gone down the route of asking one bridesmaid to help me figure it all out. She knows what I want and she knows I really don't want to have to sort it all out myself. I don't want to have to try and gather everyone together so we can all do the same thing at the same time but I know she can deal with it. This did leave me wondering if I was showing favouritism, and then I realised that I know full well they will all be pitching in somehow.
So I don't really care what bridesmaids are supposed to do, I care about them having a good time. I know there are situations that I will need their help and know they'll be happy to.
Lesson learned – just have fun.
Until next time...
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