Bride Debate: Are wedding traditions a thing of the past?
10 Jun 2019
Bride editors Amanda Griffiths (magazines) and Sarah Harris (digital) give their views on wedding traditions
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"Our fuss-free approach to wedding planning made us question which traditions we wanted to incorporate in our big day.
"We didn't want to overly conform but felt there are certain things that a wedding can't be without. For example, my dad gave me away; we had a traditional cake and a top table for the wedding breakfast. However, we didn't have a first dance as we're not a particularly romantic couple and I didn't have bridesmaids - just my nieces as flowergirls and my nephew as pageboy.
"Your wedding should be a reflection of you as a couple, so my advice would be to decide early on the wedding traditions you want to incorporate and those you don't. You could consider modernising some traditions to bring your big day up to date. With weddings becoming much more personalised, your guests won't question your choices, and ultimately, you always reserve the right to have your wedding your way."
Image: After seven years together, Sarah married Jon Harris in April 2019 in an informal wedding at a hotel near their home (Nick Murray Photography)
"On paper our wedding was a traditional affair: church ceremony, white dress, bridesmaids...and perhaps it was in reality too but not because we thought we had to do it that way - it was because we wanted to.
"There was only really one aspect we argued over and that was the cake. Andrew doesn't eat it but I wanted the cake-cutting picture - one of the wedding album classic shots. He argued that he didn't want to spend money on something he wasn't going to eat. In the end, we had two - a simple creation covered in iced sequins, as well as one made of cheese to satisfy his savoury tastes. I got my picture (hijacked by our nephews) and ironically, Andrew was having so much fun he missed the cheese cake's arrival and never got to taste a mouthful.
"Wedding traditions can be out of synch with your style of celebration so don't be afraid to update them or personalise them - instead of a traditional top table we chose a table for two and had our bridal party 'host' their own tables with the rest of the guests."
Image: Amanda married Andrew Woollacott in a church wedding followed by a big party (Lisa Aldersley, LA Photography)
What we agree on...
Don't arrange your wedding according to the rule book. Pick and choose the traditions that matter to you and don't be afraid to update them to have the wedding you want.
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