25 Apr 2017
Ask Bijou returns for April, advising how you can get your partner more involved in your wedding planning
Welcome to the April edition of Ask Bijou. This month the team behind Bijou’s collection of exclusive-use wedding venues chat about how to get your other half as excited as you are when it comes to your wedding plan. Do you have a question for the Bijou team? Email firstname.lastname@example.org to see the answer featured in a future edition of Ask Bijou…
I couldn’t be more excited about planning my wedding, but my other half seems to think all wedding venues are the same, and I’m struggling to get him involved in the decision making. I want to book my wedding venue soon, and I want the decision to be 'ours', not 'mine'. Help!
Your nuptials and everything about your wedding day should reflect you as a couple; from the way you choose to say ‘I do’ to the party you’ll have afterwards. We all know wedding venues are all totally different – usually it’s just about finding the thing that will get your other half’s interest piqued. Below are five ways to help make that all-important decision of choosing your venue and planning your wedding together.
1. Choose a wedding style
By wedding style, we mean the type of venue in which to host your celebration. Do you love the idea of hiring a country house wedding venue for 24 hours? Are you looking to get married in a hotel so that all of your guests can stay the night? Or, do you like the idea of renting an empty barn and doing all of the hiring and planning yourselves? Think about how much time you’ve got and how hands-on you really want to get.
2. Chat about your budget
The budget you have will determine the style of venue you can choose. Sit down as a couple and chat about how much you, and potentially your families, are prepared to spend on the wedding.
3. Pick a theme
Choose a wedding theme that is meaningful to you both. That way, you’ll both be able to add plenty of input and ideas to different elements of the day. Aside from choosing a colour scheme that you both love, consider a more structured theme such as travel, books, movies, fairytale, superheroes, sports, a festive theme could work if you’re getting married in winter, or a dedicated seasonal theme for any other time of year.
4. Plan together
Consider dedicating one night per week to planning your wedding. Order in a takeaway, toast your forthcoming wedding and put your heads together for an hour or two. Chatting it out and making notes along the way will give you a reason to focus and plan each and every week during the run up to your day. We think Wedding Planning Wednesday has a nice ring to it.
5. Focus on the details
Are there any particular details that as a couple you simply ‘must have’ at your wedding? If you decide these in advance, it will be easier to imagine them when you hunt for venues. For example, would your groom like to land at the venue in a helicopter? Or, have you always dreamed of a fabulous firework display at the end of the night? Whatever your wedding dreams, ensure your venue can accommodate them.