23 Jun 2016
Put your question forward for the Bijou Wedding Venues team in this monthly column, designed to answer all your wedding woes and worries.
Welcome to the June edition of Ask Bijou! Who doesn’t love a summer wedding? We certainly do, and we’re delighted at the fact that all four luxurious, country house wedding venues, owned and managed by Bijou, are licensed to host beautiful outdoor wedding ceremonies. Imagine post-ceremony fizz on the lawn along with sensational outdoor wedding photography; a must if you plan on tying the knot during the summer months.
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Both sets of parents have offered to contribute money towards our wedding, but does that mean that we need to include them all in every decision that we make when it comes to choosing a venue, buying my dress and having an open bar?
Jilly H. from Epsom
We all know that planning a wedding isn’t cheap, but when it comes to discussions with family about finances, we believe that it’s always best to be up front, open and honest from the very beginning.
The fact that both sets of parents have agreed to contribute towards your wedding is a wonderful gesture. This will give you a great guide in knowing how much you have to spend on your actual day, therefore giving you a budget to work towards (and hopefully stick to!). When you have your discussion with both sets of parents, gauge whether or not they are interested in getting involved with certain parts of your day. Some parents might like to know every detail about your wedding – including who is on your guest list. If they are spending money on the day, they might like to invite some guests of their own.
If you get the feeling that they just want you to have a great time and spend the money how you wish, then it may seem as if you’ve got free rein over what you spend the money on.
If there is something specific that you’d like at your wedding that your parents aren’t so keen on spending money on, then consider splashing out your own money in order to make your day unique and personal to you both.
We suggest that speaking with both sets of parents on a frequent basis regarding your wedding plans and budget would be a good idea. Viewing your short-list of wedding venues together before making that final decision might be fun, taking both mothers shopping for that perfect wedding gown could give you the support you need, and when it comes to how much money to put behind the bar for your evening reception, the decision can be joint.
Remember to relax and enjoy the throes of your wedding planning. Keep communicating with your families and as a couple, but most importantly, enjoy this special time!