A beautiful country wedding in Derbyshire
17 May 2022
Milly Voice and Kane Jellyman braved the capricious weather to tie the knot in a charming country venue in Derbyshire
How did you meet?
We had mutual friends when we were at sixth form/college.
Tell us about the proposal.
Kane proposed in the middle of a thunder storm in the Caribbean Sea after we swam with whale sharks in Mexico. The ring was hidden inside a pineapple dessert as we had lunch and sheltered from the storm onboard a small boat.
How was your wedding affected by Covid-19?
We had to push the date back a year and scale down our hen and stag parties. Our honeymoon destination also chopped and changed many times.
What was the theme for the day, and did you have a colour scheme?
We loosely followed a dreamy, romantic, Italian theme which was inspired by my dress. The colour scheme was blush, peach and soft green shades.
What venue did you choose and why did you choose it?
We chose The Riding School, Calke Abbey by Ivy House Weddings in Derbyshire. The Grade II listed barn swiftly blew other options out of the water as we loved the exposed brick and unusual design of the building, which allowed the entire day to take place in a single space, utilising floor to ceiling drapes to create three separate zones as well as the picturesque grounds which surrounded it.
How did you know you’d found ‘the’ dress?
I chose the ‘Juliet’ dress by Riki Dalal but dramatically changed the design of the bodice and added lengthier straps to suit my frame. I tried on around ten dresses. I loved the drama and romance of this dress. Tears from my mum and maid of honour sealed the deal.
Who were the bridesmaids and what did they wear?
My best friend of over 15 years was maid of honour. My sister and now sisters-in-law were also bridesmaids. They all wore blush ASOS dresses.
What did the mother of the bride wear?
The mother of the bride wore a beautiful blush dress and black fascinator from Debenhams.
Where did you find your suits?
The groom and groomsmen wore OneSix5ive suits from Slater Menswear.
Did you hire a wedding planner?
We did not hire a specific wedding co-ordinator, but our venue included bespoke planning from Ivy House Weddings. They were fantastic in helping us put plans for the day together, looked after us from start to finish and even lent us glass jars for the candy station in the evening reception.
Often the aspect that makes a wedding original to the couple is the detail – tell us about the details of the day.
Maria’s Flowers created stunning seasonal arrangements for us with plenty of foliage. We also had ‘mini meadows’ lining the aisle which were then re-used as centrepieces. She also created a gorgeous floral arch for us which was placed behind our top table for the wedding breakfast, as well as a garland full of foliage for the table.
Our wedding favours were personalised alcoholic lollypops from Holly’s Lollies in a variety of flavours. We had a DIY photo booth with props and a Polaroid camera. Stationery was all hand-painted by a local Derbyshire artist called Betty Buttriss, who created everything from the bespoke menus to the hand-painted table cards, each named after lesser-known Italian destinations such as Ladispoli and Rimini, alongside hand-drawn images of me and Kane fictionally enjoying each destination.
She also designed a really cool cocktail sign, which now proudly hangs in our front room, featuring our favourite cocktails – a ‘Bridestar Martini’ and ‘Brambley Ever After’ (credits to a co-worker of mine for the wordplay).
We did our own pick ‘n’ mix for the evening with over 20 kilos of different sweets which we purchased from wholesale, and went down a treat (literally). Something which made our speeches unique is that I wrote and delivered my own poem to Kane, which I am quite proud of as I was incredibly nervous.
How did you feel as you walked down the aisle?
Kane was very emotional and teared up as soon as he saw our flower girl. I tried to hold it together as I am an ugly crier, so I tried to focus on getting down the aisle without bursting into tears. I felt very nervous all morning, but once I got to the end of the aisle and held Kane’s hands, I relaxed and the anxieties of the morning were replaced with joy and excitement.
How did you make the ceremony personal to you?
Kane’s father and my sister each read a lovely poem.
What was your most memorable moment?
For Kane it was during dinner, watching everyone laughing and enjoying the day. He had a moment where he stopped and suddenly absorbed the joy of the room and how happy everyone was to celebrate with us. For me, it was probably saying ‘I do’ and finally being declared husband and wife after what seemed such a long time to wait.
What was the most challenging aspect of planning this wedding?
That’s an easy answer: Covid. The removal of the restrictions, which meant that all our guests could attend and that aspects such as dancing could be enjoyed, was delayed until around ten days prior to the wedding, so it was all very up in the air until the last minute which was incredibly stressful.
What was the most important investment for you?
We had a beautiful bespoke menu created by Black Peppermint Food Company which was delicious, but I must confess it was the honeymoon, as those two weeks together really allowed us to have much needed downtime after the big day.
What song did you choose for your first dance, and why?
We chose ‘All of Me’ by John Legend (the violin remix with Lindsey Stirling) as the lyrics resonate with us and our relationship.
Did you have any evening entertainment?
We had a fantastic DJ who got everyone dancing after not being able to for so long.
Tell us about your wedding cake.
Ruby The Cake Artist created a delicious four tier cake. We went for chocolate orange, red velvet (my favourite), and lemon and fruit. Ruby also created a selection of vegan cupcakes for our vegan guests.
If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?
The weather. But of course, that was out of our hands. I would have got myself and my bridesmaids in our dresses sooner so that we could have had time for some dressed photographs together before leaving to go to the venue.
Did anything go wrong on the day?
Nothing major. Again, the weather. My hair was completely ruined but nothing that stopped us having fun.
Did you have a custom hashtag for social media? If so, what was it?
Was there anything you wish you’d known before?
How fast the day would go and how much of an emotional whirlwind it would be. Everyone tells you, but you don’t quite believe it until it’s your day.
Where did you go on honeymoon?
We spent two weeks in St. Lucia, which was absolutely incredible. The main property we stayed at, BodyHoliday, included a free 50 minute spa treatment every day, which was just what we needed.
We only waited about a week between the wedding and our departure date but I managed to break my toe quite nastily between the two dates, which was quite inconvenient but didn’t stop us enjoying paradise.
Do you have any advice for couples in the planning stages?
Keep everything on a spreadsheet so that you can keep track of costs. Try not to fret about things that are outside of your control and remember that it’s your day.
Steal their style:
Photography: Chris Snowdon Photo
Venue: The Riding School, Calke Abbey by Ivy House Weddings
Dress: Riki Dalal from Lori G Bridal Studio
Hair: Stacey Dexter Hairdressing
Make-up: The Make Up Lab
Cake: Ruby The Cake Artist
Catering: Black Peppermint Food Company
Décor: Fabric Theatre
Stationery: Betty Buttriss
Videographer: Jason Lynch Video