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Second time's a charm: the musings of a second time bride - Part six

08 Feb 2018

Second time bride Karen Turner ponders how wedding planning has changed since she first got married

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Now that the Christmas and New Year celebrations are over and done with and our wedding is less than 100 days away (93 days, 18 hours and 26 minutes as I write this). I feel that I am suspended in a 'neither here nor there' state. Well meaning friends ask how the wedding plans are going and I roll my eyes and say “there’s so much still to do” but in reality, is there? Both Mark and I are very relaxed about the big day and are enjoying our time planning together.

We finalised and ordered our invitations last weekend. When I got married previously the wedding invitations were very formal: “Mr and Mrs Brian Thrower request the pleasure of your company…”.  Fast forward almost 30 years and things are very different. Mark and I spent hours agonising over the best way to invite our nearest and dearest to our ceremony including details such as where and when our guests should arrive to advising them that the barn floor is uneven and to choose their footwear accordingly.

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We spent weeks contemplating the thorny subject of whether to invite children to our wedding but ultimately decided that we would have an adults only day. The internet is awash with how to tactfully add this information to the invitations and we hope that our many friends and family who have children will understand our reasons. Besides, we want our guests to relax and enjoy the day and not worry about their children. This blog will probably go live before the invites arrive, so now you all know: no children at the wedding.

Social media was unheard of in 1990, but this is 2018 and no wedding is complete without a hashtag.  But this poses another dilemma: how do you decide on a unique hashtag? After a few intermittent browses with online hashtag generators we have come up with ours which will be revealed on the day: #surprise…

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And who knew that a wedding website was a thing? Thanks to Mark being a bit over enthusiastic and deciding to subscribe to the Bride Magazine's online wedding planning tools we are now the proud owners of our very own website. However after our initial idea that we had wasted a few pounds of our precious wedding budget, it is proving very useful: it contains information about the venue and how to find it, a weather update, links to our wedding list as well as links to the blogs. I am sure we will add much more along the way and it allows you to upload up to 1,000 photos too.

Thoughts now turn to the emotional subject of writing our vows: where to start with these? Thankfully, once again the internet is proving a useful starting point. We are keen to write our own as we both strongly believe vows are very personal, but it is helpful reading what other people have said in the past. We have met with our celebrant, Trevor, recently and are looking forward to working with him to make our ceremony special and unique. Mark’s daughter and my sister will be giving readings and we have chosen music to play during the ceremony.

Now where did I put the website links for the best waterproof mascara?