wedding planning

Five annoying questions every engaged couple has to endure

07 Dec 2017

Are you newly-engaged? Prepare to answer these annoying questions at least twice a day…

“How’s the wedding planning going?”

Because it’s a completely open question, it’s the easiest one for people to ask. Regardless of whether they know nothing about your wedding or have all the most up-to-date information about the big day, they’ll still ask. It’s bearable if it’s your parents, best man or maid of honour asking the question, but if it’s anyone else it can quickly get irritating.

Respond with: “It’s going well, thank you” to bring the conversation to an abrupt end.  

“Are you inviting X and Y?” Or, “Can I bring my kids?”

Some people just don’t have the patience to wait for the invitations to be sent out, and feel entitled to not-so-subtly ask if you’re inviting the people they want to see. Remember that your wedding is about you and your partner; don’t feel pressured to invite people you don’t want there.

Respond with: “We’re still deciding on the guest list; we’ll let you know once the invitations are posted.” By then, it’ll be too late.

“When are you having children?”

Marriage, to some people, represents the beginning of a family and means that pregnancy is imminent. This question will mainly be asked by those from older generations, but don’t be surprised if some of your more traditional friends ask too. Even if you are planning on having kids straight after the wedding, the frequency of the query will soon get on your nerves.

Respond with: “We’re waiting until we’re in the best financial position to have children.” This is an open-ended answer that could very well mean “yes, we’re going to start trying straight away” or “no, we’re waiting another ten years before we even begin thinking about it.”

“How do you know they’re the one?”

Despite the fact that you and your partner will have been together for quite a while before you decided to get engaged, some people will still think that your marriage is a bad idea; this is their way of delicately broaching the subject. As long as you are happy and secure in your relationship, this question should be easy to answer – but that doesn’t make it any less annoying.

Respond with: “We’ll be fine, thank you. How’s your love life going?” to throw them off course.

“How are you paying for your wedding?” Or, “How much is your wedding costing?”

Unless they are helping to contribute to the wedding, this is nobody’s business. This question can come from anyone; already-married couples who want to compare your wedding to theirs, and unmarried people curious about the ins and outs of wedding planning.

Respond with: a blunt and honest “Sorry, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing that information.”